Why Our Foster Son is No Longer with Us

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Foster Care Reform

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I know it’s been a while since I’ve spoken about foster care or adoption on this blog. There are some sensitive issues Sarabeth and I are battling with the system, and we’re longing for change.

I know I bemoan politicians and warn us against putting our hope and faith in them, but I’m proud to say that I stand behind our state of Kentucky’s governor Matt Bevin (@MattBevin). Even if you’re not in Kentucky, I have a feeling you’ll be hearing a lot from him in the coming years.

He and his wife attempted to adopt years ago, and after going through the tedious and long process of classes and paperwork and on and on and on, they were eventually denied a placement because they had too many kids already (five). So the 8,000 kids in foster care did not drop down to 7,999 that day.

Governor Bevin, in a recent interview, has not only vowed to reform foster care in the state of Kentucky, but to set the model for the rest of the country to follow. I can honestly say that his views and options are my own.

Everything from the system needs a complete makeover. From race being no issue, money being spent in the wrong places, the slow and torture of leaving kids in limbo in the system, to the damaging effects reunification can cause.

The system is broken, and because of that, we have a lot of people who want to foster-to-adopt but are afraid to try. I don’t blame them. But the problem that causes is that more kids end up growing up without a safe childhood with a good family, and I blame the court, I blame the government, and ultimately, I blame us.

We see these problems such as the broken foster care system, the insurance industry robbing us blind, animal abuse, and on and on, but WE THE PEOPLE just leave it to the government to fix.

Even Bevin says that’s a bad idea and nothing will get fixed this way.

We consider our heavy lifting going to the polls every 2-4 years and punching a hole in a ballot.

Yay. We contributed.

And most of the time we don’t even know who or what we’re voting for. We just vote according to our affiliated party, which is like getting bad pizza at a place closer to home rather than driving the extra ten minutes for better pizza.

I’d take the long drive and the good pizza any day.

What are you passionate about? What would you like to see change? And finally, what are you doing about it?

Here’s the interview. I loved every minute of it. #FosterCareReform

And if Matt Bevin ever wanted me to come work for him, I’d do it in a heartbeat.

https://www.ket.org/episode/KCINW+000000/

ABC Thinks You’re Stupid, Stupid, Stupid!

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It’s just been reported that Tim Allen’s highly successful sitcom Last Man Standing has been cancelled, allegedly due to ABC not supporting the show’s conservative spin.

It’s no secret that funnyman and actor Tim Allen is a die-hard conservative. But never has it been reported that he’s shoved his views down people’s throats. (And really, I can’t find a person who dislikes him even in this liberal wasteland.) But he’s smart: he uses his beliefs to fuel his comedy acts and his sitcoms.

And it works.

Whatever side of the political aisle you’re on, you can’t deny that he’s a really, really funny guy.

Tim Allen has been a celebrity favorite of mine since childhood. I grew up watching Home Improvement and plan on showing all the DVD’s to my kids. Allen’s movies, though not necessarily Oscar-worthy, are delightfully entertaining, and just all-around fun escapes.

The issue here isn’t so much about censuring conservatives so much as it is allowing diversification. Honestly, I choose conservatism, but I still watch stand-up comedians like Louis C.K. and support liberal actors and filmmakers, and authors even though I vehemently disagree with what they stand for. Why? Because they’re funny, they’re talented, they do their jobs well.

And that’s what Tim Allen was doing. His beloved sitcom, Last Man Standing had solid ratings across the board, but apparently ABC decided they didn’t want their audiences swayed into a conservative mindset. Yup, you heard me: ABC thinks you’re stupid! ABC thinks you’re stupid enough to change you’re entire outlook on life and political beliefs based on a sitcom.

Let’s take politics out of it for a second here. What’s wrong with other views? What’s wrong with mixing things up? That’s what makes me mad. Hollywood is only allowing one side of things, when conservatives can be just as hilarious and talented as liberals.

Folks, we ALL have something to bring to the table. But Hollywood and television execs are keeping people – talented people – away because they didn’t give money to the Gay Pride movement or because they own a gun.

We’re no longer the melting pot. We’re becoming more the liberal sludge. Just watered down, rehashed, one-sided censored people. (If it were the other way around, I’d say we’re getting bored and tired of conservative entertainment.)

Unfortunately I can’t boycott ABC because I never watched it (I watch LMS on Netflix), but man, I hope their ratings suffer and they get a very clear message from WE THE PEOPLE that censoring is not okay by us.

The cancellation came as a shock for many fans considering the show’s high ratings. Deadline reports the sitcom was the network’s second-highest comedy this season and averaged 8.1 million viewers, just behind “Modern Family,” which averaged 8.7 million viewers this season and was recently renewed for two more seasons. It was also ABC’s third highest watched scripted series behind “Grey’s Anatomy” and “Modern Family.”

It’s Our Fault the Beast is Growing

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The internet is exploding, once again, with debates about healthcare, thanks to TrumpCare. Next it will be HillaryCare, then RyanCare, and back and forth like a tether ball match, and we’re the ball getting pounded and tied to the center of it all.

Meanwhile, we the people are just arguing and venting about it by the water cooler while we continue to allow these politicians and insurance companies to rob us blind of our hard-earned money.
America seized to be a free country when healthcare was mandated by the previous administration. This is just the first step toward a socialist society.
Let me break down how it works, as simply as I can.
1. It used to be that people could get care from whomever they wanted
As early as the 70’s, people could choose Dr. Salt or Dr. Pepper to treat their cold or fix their bones. They often paid the doctor’s set price out of pocket as though they were just buying a bottle of shampoo from Target instead of Walmart. It was a happy and free country.
2. Enter Big Insurance
These Fuckers (you don’t mind if I call them that do you?) come along and say, “Hey, that medicine your doctor put you on is really expensive. Would you like us to help you pay for that?” So like suckers, we said, “Yay!” The Fuckers rubbed their hands together and said, “Just sign here and we’ll pay part of your health expenses. Oh, by the way, you’re locked into your policy, so once you’re better, you still need to keep paying us premiums. Because you need us so badly.”
3. The evil plan evolves 
So the Fuckers started to see that they can make a lot of money this way. At first, it might have had good intentions, but they weren’t happy with the millions of dollars they were already pocketing. They wanted to go for billions and trillions. So they started making up all these rules like denying claims for pre-exisiting conditions, only insuring the healthy, denying CAT scans because they didn’t approve it. Rule after rule after rule, each rule ONLY set in place to ensure the Fuckers save money and are exempt from paying out. EVEN THOUGH we’re all still paying higher and higher premiums (and co-pays, and deductibles) without exception.
4. Silencing the people
People started to see that this behavior was immoral and unethical. So they started complaining, fighting back, demanding their claims be paid. So the Fuckers panicked. “What do we do?” they asked themselves. “We need help!” So they spent billions of dollars (of YOUR premiums) to hire really smart people to sit around a table and plot and scheme and discuss ways to silence their customers and make it impossible for us to fight back or argue. “Let’s make our rules into laws!” some little fucker decided. “But how do we do that?” the others asked. “We need friends in high places.”
5. Enter the lobbyists 
This is where the Fuckers start to seduce and fondle government officials. They exchange favors. “You pass laws to shut these people up and make our thievery legal, and we’ll support your campaign and make sure you get your votes.” So the Fuckers and the Asshats (you don’t mind if I call the politicians that, do you?) all get into the big white bed together and had a nice little orgy, when ironically, we’re the ones getting majorly screwed.
6. More ways to rob us
In the meantime, the Fuckers are still spending YOUR premiums to bribe and tantalize the Asshats who pass laws to make it legal for the Fuckers to rob you. “But what happens when deductibles are met from just one hospital stay?” asked the insanely rich Fucker in his multi-billion dollar penthouse. “Easy! We’ll make it so that a deductible cannot be met with just one stay or one operation. Premiums continue to get paid and deductibles still have to be shelved out even though they technically met it. Brilliant!” And what about Group Insurance? Well, places of employment cannot discriminate based on lifestyles (how kind), so they’ll require screenings and hike individual insurance rates up (within the group policy) based off of each individual test. THAT’S how they determine risk factor and so get away with discriminating.
So what do we do? We’ve allowed these Fuckers and Asshats to use our money to devise ways to cut off our arms and legs. In the meantime, they’ve so brilliantly made the whole thing so complicated that we don’t even know where to start attacking them. We’ve allowed them to paint us into a corner. And unless “we the people” do something now, like, I don’t know, drop our insurance and stop voting (admittedly, two things that will hurt us immensely), then we’re just passing this evolving problem on to our kids to suffer with.
Big Insurance is a beast. And that beast continues to grow and grow the more we feed it. The more it grows, the more it demands. And the cycle goes on and on and on. That will not stop until we the people ban together and say enough is enough. The question is, HOW do we do that? Any ideas? Go on, I’m listening.

A Politically Incorrect Thanksgiving Poem

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This Thanksgiving falls sixteen days after the presidential nomination.

Some rejoice the results while others bemoan the abomination.

 

Verbal shots will be taken and friends will fall prey

to the slander and abuse that will take place on this day.

 

No longer will just the blood of turkeys be spilled

but those of our family and friends as our bellies are filled.

 

Instead of giving thanks around the table this year

Americans one and all will incite loathing and fear.

 

“You tree-hugging liberal skank,” some will abhor.

And on the table’s opposite: “You racist republican whore.”

 

They’ll start off as groans and hard-to-hear mumbles

as the potatoes boil they’ll become audible grumbles.

 

Eye-rolls will turn into daggers shot hard

as all await the first to play the dreaded Trump card.

 

The stuffing will be dished with fingers stiff and pointing

mocking the cabinet Trump is appointing.

 

But let’s not forget those who voted for a party third

They’ll be blending in while cutting and also flipping the bird.

 

Whispers will give way to talk then raise to loud shouting

and the expletives will become part of the verbal spouting.

 

“You voted for that blood-spilling, lying bitch?”

“Do you not value me as a woman, or do you have a brain-glitch?”

 

On it will go no one having the time of their lives

“Pass me the garlic, the onions, and chives!”

 

Phones will be passed in lieu of toasty gravy,

sharing videos of Hillary bashing the NAVY.

 

More videos: Hillary bowing toward Mecca!

More videos: Trump groping my friend Miss Rebecca!

 

Trump has too much hair! Hillary’s eyebrows too bushy!

Hillary’s just reaching for power! Trumps grabbing…well, he’s pushy.

 

Some will say, “Throw Hillary in jail!”

Others say it’s to Trump we should heil.

 

Hillary loves terrorists! Trump loves Putin!

(My face is bloating, do these yams have gluten?)

 

All the while there’s a corpse on our table who had a shot at more life

But today’s president did not pardon this bird from the knife.

 

I ask you, how is that fair and how do we fare?

We still bicker and fight though we still get to breathe air.

 

So when you look at that turkey and slice its gullet

think back to a time of Game Boys and mullets.

 

When you were a kid at the Thanksgiving table,

the peace was so nice it was almost a fable.

 

Don’t judge your gay neighbors or steal your uncle’s guns.

Just laugh with your friends and have fun

(and don’t forget to grab some buns).

 

Happy Thanksgiving Americans one and all.

A Dash of Election Perspective

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I think most people are shocked from last night’s election results. I couldn’t stay awake long enough to see the results, but my wife was kind enough to wake me up at 3:00 AM and report them to me. She knows, as a compulsive worrier, I was stressed about the election, even though I didn’t vote for either candidate. I voted third party, something I never thought I’d do. But knowing one of the two would win, I did have my preference.

But like so many early November Wednesdays in our country’s history, we as a people are prone to gloat, to bemoan, to judge, and to fight and accuse.

I’m sorry to those who didn’t get your choice. But just remember, those who got what they wanted today were just as devastated for the last two elections as you are today.

But we’re all still here. The world didn’t end for anyone. It maybe got better for some in the last eight years, and a little worse for others. But we’re still here.

I’m not thrilled that Trump is our president, per se, but my sister-in-law actually brought up a really good point. The advantage with Trump being in office is that he’s not a politician. This presidency will not be the last thing he does. When it’s over, he will have other ventures to tend to. Therefore, his term(s) are not going to be dictated by political favors or ass-kissing. No one likes playing the stupid political game, and Trump least of all.

I think it’s okay to give him a chance. I think it’s okay to hear each other out. And my personal dream: to drop party lines (which was George Washington’s hope). Just because I’m a Republican on paper doesn’t mean I’m for Big Business or Corporate America or against saving the trees and the animals.

On another note, I will say this about President Obama, since the clock is ticking on his final term, and I have to point out that the presidential candidate I voted for, Evan McMullin was the one who brought this to light: Even though I disagree with President Obama’s politics, I respect him as a man. In his eight years in office there have been no scandals, no mistresses, and he’s still the proud husband and father he came into the office as. In those regards, I owe him my complete respect and appreciation.

The real winners today are the one’s who don’t gloat or pick fights. The best we can do for now is hold our breath and hope for the best. We’ll be okay, you’ll see.

 

A Third Party Presidency Can Happen!

If you’re like me and most of Americans I talk to, you’re disgusted by the candidates for this upcoming election. Clowns. Losers. A pathetic and embarrassing waste. And that’s putting it nicely.

Capitol Hill has almost always been more concerned about their little squabbles and rivalries than about the interests of the American people.

Hillary supports organizations I’m disgusted by, she will disarm our military, and reduce our police force to hall monitors. And also, by a rule of thumb, any vote for a democratic party is a vote in favor of bigger government and higher taxes, both of which I am stoutly and adamantly against.

On the other hand, we have Donald. He represents the party that I’m registered with. And he’s an absolute disgrace. But for a while I was going to vote for him because he wants to rebuild our military, and it’s only likely that he’ll raise our taxes (not guaranteed like it is with Hillary), and he wants to do away with Obamacare, because we lost our freedom with that. He’s a “lesser evil,” in my opinion.

But a vote for Trump almost guarantees four years of scandal and finger-pointing and more turbulence with racial issues (which infuriates me because those issues should be nonexistent by this point. I mean, seriously, what the hell is wrong with us? Are we all still in grade school and we can’t get over our differences?).

But voting for Trump (or against Hillary) means voting for a racist, sexist pig, who might take the defense of our country so far as to annihilate any possible threat even before it becomes a threat, which I’m not okay with (but I’m more in favor of that than laying down our arms, as Hillary would propose). Basically this is what I call a grey election. There are black and whites between the candidates, but our convictions as a country are still grey. These candidates are asking us to vote for all or nothing on every issue.

My wife convinced me that a vote against a candidate is a waste, because it’s still a vote in favor of an evil. I think we can all agree that both are an evil in some ways or others.

You’re either voting for a racist, sexist fear monger whose primary interest has always been increasing his own bottom line…

Or you’re voting for a pathological liar, whose primary interest is control and power at every cost, no matter who gets hurt. She said it herself that she believes in systems and rules over the power of changed person. People in favor of more systems, rules, and regulations are defeatists.

BUT, like the brilliant film Finding Dory reminds us, there’s always a way out. DON’T VOTE FOR THE LESSER OF EVILS like I came close to doing. If you’re honest to goodness choice is either of the primary candidates, then by all means, go for it. But if you’re like me, and neither is acceptable for you, then send the government a message and demand a third party, another option.

I always fall into the mindset that my vote doesn’t matter. Trust me. I get that. I’m a total victim to that ideology. But if I truly believe in and hope for a changed government, then I must act on that with my vote. Because maybe there are millions of others just like me. And what if none of us go out and vote for a third party?

Abraham Lincoln was a third party.

If you’re undecided, seriously watch this 90-second video below. It makes perfect sense that a third party is possible.