32-Years of Musings For My Kids


I’m turning 32 today. When you have kids, you tend to reflect on your life with your kids in mind. So here are 32 musings I would like to pass on to them when the time’s right. 

  1. Be picky with what you watch. If nothing’s on, do something else.
  2. Wait tables. But get out fast. The experience will make you humble.
  3. Make friends with the quietest person in the room. They’re the ones who who typically have the most to say.
  4. Read at least one book a month.
  5. Always finish your homework as fast as you can. Then graduate early.
  6. Don’t ask for advice. You’ll get it anyway. Listen to it, but make your own decisions.
  7. Your best friend is not just a friend. He is a brother/she is a sister.
  8. Pursue what you want to do with every fiber of your being. People will tell you it’s impossible. That’s because they’re the ones who gave up.
  9. When you fall in love, fall hard. If it doesn’t work out, your parents will be here to catch you.
  10. But if it does work out, we’ll be here to support you.
  11. However, we won’t always be here. That’s why I’m telling you this now.
  12. Life sucks and the world is brutal. I have nothing to add here except that we’re all in this together.
  13. Sing as much as you can. In public if you’re good.
  14. Find your most favorite food in the world and make up every excuse to eat it.
  15. Don’t do drugs or get drunk. The aftermath isn’t worth it.
  16. Above all, stay away from porn. It’s the biggest thief on the planet.
  17. A thoughtful text goes a lot further than a Hallmark card. And it’s free.
  18. Discover your passion then work hard. Not the other way around.
  19. If you can’t find your passion, search hard by exploring the world.
  20. If you can’t explore the world, listen to the cries of people around you. You’ll probably find your passion there.
  21. If you’e the CEO of a company, or a boss, or a supervisor, take care of your employees first. Make them happy. This will make your job easier and the company better.
  22. If you work under any of those people, challenge them. But be nice about it. They have room to grow and you have ideas to share. If they don’t listen, it’s their loss. Find something better.
  23. Speak up. I have never seen a reason not to. But I’ve regretted every time I didn’t.
  24. You will never get a big break. Don’t ever expect it. That way, if it does come, you’ll be that much more surprised.
  25. Stay in shape so you have energy for your friends and family.
  26. Write/tweet/message every famous person you admire.
  27. Visit the great Northwest. Then Colorado. Then I dare you to chose what’s better. I still can’t decide.
  28. Always leave at least ten minutes early.
  29. Stay out of debt.
  30. Always ask yourself how you can make your life better. Then do it.
  31. To the world you will always be just a number. But to your dad you will always be Number 1.
  32. Try to avoid being cheesy. If you figure out how to do that, then teach me how.

Welcome To September


Pumpkins and scarecrows adorn shop windows and Target has Halloween costumes up for grabs. Even though the grocery stores are piling up on endless supplies of candy, all the kids are a bit downcast because they’re faced with a whole year of school ahead of them.

Welcome to September.

The end of summer, shorter days, longer nights, and browner leaves.

And a slow, dreadful preparation for winter.

But that’s just the thing. If you’re like me, you’re always looking back wishing it were the glory days of summer or dreading the drudgery days of winter ahead. You’re never living in the moment. You’re never taking the time to just enjoy the season for what it is.

Fall is everyone’s favorite time of year. It’s not too hot to stay inside or too cold to necessitate the use of all the hot water in the house. You can open the windows and begin building your Christmas list while looking for the best recipe for butterbeer. I think what Green Day meant to sing was, “Wake Me Up When September Starts.”

It’s the perfect season, and maybe this year we can learn to just enjoy it for what it is and live in the moment.

And if I don’t, will you remind me to? Because I’m not getting any younger, and my Septembers are falling off.

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The Value of Building Memories


I don’t know about you, but when the daily routine gets to be too routine, I grow quite tired of it. In order for me not to grow cantankerous, I need to do things a little out of the ordinary. Fun things. Like take my family to the fair.

We went to the Kentucky State Fair last week. There, I watched my daughter’s eyes light up when she saw the goats and pigs and cows. She loved petting the lambs and just running around the farm animals in general.

Even our son, strapped in his stroller, was interested in his surroundings and took an interest in the dog shows and the flying motorcycles.

The food was way overpriced and tasted like crap, but it broke up the daily grind. It afforded the family quality time together outside of the house.

Something I’m learning is to always go out and do things with the family as much as you can. That way, when we look back on it all, we’ll know we really experienced life together with every opportunity offered.

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My Daughter’s Life Will Change In Just Two Days


…As will mine.

It’s hard to believe we’ve had Baby A. for a year and a half! Since she arrived in our home from the hospital, the house has been louder, more joyful, filled with laughs, and it’s been much, much messier!

Sure, there’s been some bad days where my temper has gotten the better of me, or my patience ran out.

But I wouldn’t give up a single minute with my foster daughter.

And in just two days, she will be, officially and forever known as our daughter.

Sarabeth and I can’t possibly be more happy and proud of our little girl. Every day she surprises us with something new that’s she’s learned and cracks us up over something she does.

Our daughter has become the greatest little person I have even known.

July 22, her adoption day, cannot possibly come fast enough.

Now I need to stop writing about it because otherwise I can’t stop crying!

No, life isn’t perfect. There are many things we’d like to change, many more miles to cross to reach certain goals, and many struggles yet to overcome, but when it comes to our daughter, nothing can possibly give us more joy and satisfaction.

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Aim For Your Dream – As Slow as You Can


So you’re writing your breakthrough book. Or you’re planning your startup business. Or you’re putting projects together to impress your boss.

If you’re like me, you tend to focus more on meeting deadlines than delivering top-notch products.

Not that you and I don’t care about the quality of our work. We just sort of figure the A+ quality will fall into place as long as we meet that deadline.

I’m working on a couple of books right now, but one being of upmost importance. The person I’m working on it with agreed that we should have it ready for the public late this year. But the more we discussed it, the more we realized that there’s no reason to set a deadline for this book, especially if we want it to reach the top of every bestseller book list, which is our intent.

The book had been quite a few bumps and since I was released from the time pressure, and forced myself to really take my time, it’s beginning to shape into a much better book.

I’m sure by now you’ve seen Inside Out. You know why that film is so effective and basically perfect on so many levels? The filmmakers took their time with it. Where typically an animated feature can take four years, Inside Out took five years to make.

And guess what?

Even four years into production, they had to keep going back to the drawing board.

If you’re not constantly having to start over with your book or your project, then I submit that it’s not yet good enough.

Start over, as I’ve had to. And seriously take your time. Otherwise, as my wife says, you’re wasting your time publishing a book tomorrow that could have been so much better a year from now.

Break Well


On my breaks at work, I work.

I have my laptop with me, I go out to my car, and I write.

It’s nothing work-related – my job is not important enough for that. But my writing is important. It’s important to me that I write well enough to get a ticket out of this day job. So I don’t waste a second writing as much as I can during the small amount of time that’s given to me.

My colleagues however, go out to their cars and sleep. Or smoke. Or text.

And if they’re not in their cars, they’re in the break room watching The Steve Harvey Show or The Price is Right. And then they go back to their desk and complain about how much they hate their job.

So, I ask you, if you hate your day job – if you haven’t reached your dream job yet – how are you spending your breaks at work this week?

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In Remembrance of the Many


At this time of year, when Americans kick off their summers with holiday vacations and barbecues, it is good to pause and remember our countrymen (and women) who have answered the call to serve, especially those who made the ultimate sacrifices.

Please feel free to list the names of those you know who served our country so that we may know their names.

Conflict                                                U.S. Military Deaths

Revolutionary War (1775-1783)            25,000

War of 1812 (1812-1815)                       20,000

Mexican War (1846-1848)                      13,300

Civil War (1861-1865)

Union                                                        360,000

Confederate                                              260,000

Spanish-American War (1898)                   2,500

World War I (1917-1918)                            116,500

World War II (1941-1945)                           405,400

Korean War (1964-1973)                            36,600

Vietnam War (1964-1973)                           58,200

Persian Gulf War (1990-1991)                    380

Afghanistan (2001-present)                        500+

Iraq War (2003-2011)                                  4,700


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