October 4, 2016 23 Comments
Two of our kids came to us through the state’s foster system. Despite all the horror stories, we were fortunate enough to not have any drama with them from their biological families. Just the standard and infuriating sluggish court system.
Our newest one, seven weeks old, is a different story. His mom wants him back, and if she can’t get him then her mom wants him. We wouldn’t have much of a problem with this except that his mom did heroine when she was pregnant with him.
All the way up until five hours before she delivered him.
And the state wants to reunite mother and son.
That is all I will say for privacy’s sake. Except that, through rather explosive circumstance that unfolded recently, it is exceptionally clear that had the baby been in his biological mom’s care, he would not have been brought to the ER last week and would have most assuredly died at home. His mom’s expert opinion is that he doesn’t need to be in the hospital. She said this while as a machine was pumping air into his half-dead lungs.
My wife and I were up late last night talking about everything.
We’re engulfed in a nightmare of epic proportions, and we had a decision to make. Do we throw our hands up and say the baby’s going to be given back to his mom anyway? Or do we stay in the ring and fight?
We have every reason to give up. And deep down, we want to.
But we are choosing to stay and fight. My wife wants to protect the baby for as long as she can. I’m choosing to fight because it’s one way I can stand up against injustice in this world.
Walter White once said, “I’m going to hell anyway. I’m not going there lying down.”
I question what freedom is. I question if we in America actually have real freedom, or is it masked? I know we’re not being dictated or shot in the streets, but we have to fight a stalwart and aggressive government to protect the most innocent of lives. Is that freedom?
Folks, we’ll all go to our pride rallies and pay our union dues, but our priorities are really messed up. When did marriage equality take precedence over the safety and care of helpless children? Babies are born addicted to drugs and we’re trying to make sure Steve and Jeeves can get a marriage certificate. Children are being neglected in the home because Mom took too many painkillers the night before, and we’re squabbling over he said/she said politics. Children are being beat because the state decided it was good idea that they live with their “real” dad, and we’re busy Youtubing the latest panda bear video. What the fuck is wrong with all of us?
Where are the groups and crowds advocating that the foster system be torn down and changed from the ground up? Why aren’t the law-abiding citizens taking a final stand for a no-tolerance law? Meaning, once you have your kid taken away from you, that’s it, you’re done. No second chances. You want to have more kids? Fine. But stay clean this time.
You don’t tamper with young life. And all of us who survived childhood have no right to ignore those babies and children who are suffering in the blind hands of the state and the incapable hands of their parents/relatives.
Don’t you see? It’s a recycling system.Keep throwing the kids back to their lower-class surroundings, and they’ll grow up to be just like their parents living on welfare and food stamps, who in turn will likely give birth to children addicted to heroin and meth and cocain. It’s job security for the government.
I am not a racist or a bigot. I am 100% for anyone who wants to change their life. I feel bad for people who are living in desolation. And I understand it is a freaking hard world to live in and even harder not to fail. I get all that. And I also understand that there are people who can change their lives around for the sake of their kids. But today, I’m not talking about them. They are not a majority. They’re an extreme rarity.
So, my question to you is, what are we going to do to earn the right and the freedom to protect our children? Let me be uncomfortably clear: WE DO NOT HAVE THE FREEDOM TO SAVE CHILDREN. They are only saved if and when the state decides they’re ready to release them from bondage.
Who has the answer? Who has a plan? Who has the balls to stand up with me and, as Steve Jobs said, make a dent in the universe?